INNER CHILD
Unwind age old patterns, heal your emotional heart,
integrate the wisdom and joy of your inner child.
INNER CHILD
Unwind age old patterns, heal your emotional heart, integrate the wisdom and joy of your inner child.
Our deepest desire—and our birthright—is to be happy: to be in touch with an inner peace, joy, and contentment that remains unaffected by the ups and downs of daily life.
Yet so often the recipes for happiness handed down to us from our parents or given to us by teachers and through cultural media, are faulty. So instead of a magnificent chocolate soufflé—tender and sweet—what comes out of the oven is a burnt and bitter mud-colored brick. Instead of happiness, suffering.
The good news is that healing and transformation are possible. Learning genuinely effective recipes for happiness, and letting go of the ones that don’t work, is possible.
This life is a beautiful classroom, and from its hardships can emerge great beauty, if we’re brave enough to face the challenges, and to embrace the wounding. A very good starting-point on this journey of healing and transformation is to get to know your inner child.
MEETING YOUR INNER CHILD
To grow properly and bear delicious fruit, a tree requires rich soil, sunshine, and rain. Just so, children have specific needs—both physical and psychological—that must be met if they are to develop properly.
When childhood essential needs go unfulfilled, this can set the stage for mental-emotional disharmonies later in life. Taken collectively, the emotional and behavioral patterns related to childhood are sometimes referred to as “the inner child.”
A CHILD’S BASIC DEVELOPMENTAL NEEDS
A child’s basic physical needs include clean water and nutritious food, adequate shelter, rejuvenating sleep, opportunities for exercise, and access to healthcare.
Equally important are emotional and soul deep needs. Children thrive in environments rich with unconditional love, kindness, affection, encouragement, appreciation, and support. Safe and secure surroundings, appropriate guidance and discipline, and the opportunity to play with other children are other basic psychological needs. In such a milieu, feelings of self-worth and confidence can easily take root.
Encouraging a child’s natural curiosity and creativity, the exploration of new things, and the willingness to take risks and to try again if it doesn’t work out the first time—all support vibrant growth: from infant to toddler to adolescent and into adulthood.
BECOMING A WELL-BALANCED ADULT
Becoming a healthy and well-adjusted adult—like a tree growing to healthy maturity—requires that our childhood needs are met, either by our parents when we were a child, or by ourselves now that we are an adult.
This process includes learning how to metabolize challenging events. While children often possess great resilience, they can also be deeply impacted by traumatic events such as the death of a parent; the divorce of their parents; physical or emotional violence in their home; or even having to move away from their friends and familiar surroundings, when the family relocates.
Sometimes a child can digest such events, but if not, then the old trauma may become lodged in the body-mind as subconscious tensions or a vague sense of dis-ease. It’s our responsibility, as adults, to explore and unwind these old undigested traumas and their attendant physical or emotional tensions—thereby freeing the inner child.
HEALTHY PARENTING: CLARITY, JOY AND PRESENCE
What’s the purpose of investing time and energy to do this sort of emotional processing, to meet and liberate the inner child?
The answer is quite clear and simple: Because wounds that are not resolved tend to be transmitted from one generation to the next. The ability to parent our own children well depends upon this willingness to relate skillfully to our own mental-emotional challenges.
We must learn to love and parent our inner child: to acknowledge, accept, and take responsibility for the old wounds. Only then can we parent our own children with genuine authenticity and clarity—rather than transmitting our unresolved wounding to them.
Every childhood has its challenges: none is perfect, and there’s no shame in acknowledging the imperfections. And the good news is that any wound can, with time and skillful attention, heal. When we scrape a knee, the skin almost miraculously regenerates. Similar healing and transformation is possible for psychological wounds.
As our own childhood wounding is resolved, our capacity to parent with clarity, joy, and presence comes forth naturally.
SPIRITUAL MATURITY AND THE CHILDLIKE SAGE
When developmental needs are met, this also provides the groundwork for spiritual unfolding.
Sometimes spiritual maturity requires leaving behind or at least going beyond certain social norms—particularly if the society isn’t particularly enlightened. But this can only happen, in a healthy way, when the inner child’s needs have been fully met.
A spiritually awakened being—a sage—very often exhibits a childlike innocence, playfulness, and freedom. Yet there’s an important difference between being childish—an expression of the inner child’s unmet needs—and the childlike wisdom of the sage.
When the inner child’s unmet needs are resolved, this creates the space for the emergence of genuine spiritual wisdom. The sage’s wisdom is naturally infused with joyful spontaneity, innocence, wonder, awe, sensitivity, playfulness, and curiosity.
EMBRACING yOUR INNER LIGHT
To heal is to transform deeply by embracing your innate inner light: the light of presence, of spiritual awake-ness; the light of awareness that’s shining through your eyes right now.
To embrace your inner light as a mother means to raise children from a place that is wholesome, authentic, and real. It’s to live a life where love, pleasure, comfort, and joy (not pain!) are the norm. And this is the surest way to bring about a more enlightened society.
LIBERATE YOURSELF!
I want you to experience life in all of its magnificence. I want you to embrace yourself with love, compassion, and forgiveness. I want you to discover and enjoy the infinite, eternal, and indestructible spiritual light that resides at the core of your being and to share this with your children.
Through the use of interpersonal hypnotherapy in soul connection sessions, I can help you clear the debris that keeps you from the fully expressed life you were born to live.
This is the key both to healing yourself, and to connecting with your children from the deepest spaces within: freeing yourself and them from the burdens of your past; and allowing you to parent authentically, with joy, ease and presence.
Regardless of your age or background, you can benefit greatly by embracing yourself wholeheartedly, by healing your core wounds, by expressing the light of true freedom and experiencing the guiltless state as a healed adult, It’s the kind of work that will really allow you to live a balanced, connected, and harmonious life.
“I connected with Rose through mentoring her as a student doula in Cape Town and immediately resonated with her beautiful gentleness and connectedness to the women she was assisting in their labours and births. We planned a Soul Connections session earlier this year which I felt would benefit my finding resolution in something I have been carrying heavily in my heart for the past 32 years. I was also about to be diagnosed with breast cancer and Rose had been holding space for me whilst awaiting the diagnosis.
We started the session by discussing what it was that was needed for the session. Rose talked me through the options and we decided on a process of connecting my inner child to my higher self. The experience was intense and I was regressed to a previous lifetime which was profound. Rose helped me to release stuck emotions from my body, specifically my lower back, which has caused me pain for many years. In one session, although the muscle has not relaxed, the pain has lifted immensely. The 3 hour regression enlightened and clarified certain parts of this lifetime for me.
We have plans for more sessions soon which I really look forward to. It feels like the beginning of an amazing journey with Rose. I would highly recommend her as, not only a Soul Connections Facilitator, but as an incredibly intuitive and caring soul with enormous amounts of insight and compassion. She serves in the birth space beautifully too!”
– Angela Morton –